This thing called "Trouble"....

I keep saying that I missed the days when “gay” use to simply mean “happy”, without violent demonstrations attached to that. Even love for that matter. It is difficult to define “Love” per se but when we manage to do so, it is associated with many events that relates to good feeling between humans. Today, “Love” is simply known as “trouble”.

Ever wonder why relationships are so screwed up nowadays? It is because humans do not decipher the third Newton Law that states, “Every action has its reaction”. We put in a set of action and anticipate an almost impossible outcome that defies mathematical probability and actually become bewildered when this “unexpected outcome” boomerangs its way back to us. In life, this is called simply, “cause and effect”. So basically, screwed up relationships are by choice not so much by chance. Here’s a simple rule of thumb; You can pray all you want to God, but unless you are in a zero gravity situation, you jump down, you fall, you don’t float.

Men and women of today, in majority, have probably lost recognition of love even when it punches them right on the nose making it bleed. The Adrenalin that is the by-product of love use to make our hearts flutter, if not skip a beat or give us the palpitations. Nowadays, it is used to gear our body up for the “flight and fight” response. We choose romance over the real thing because sometimes, the real thing does not present itself the way love stories do. We submit to mere physical attraction, chemistry, our plans for the future for our partner to fit into it, fit it into our own frame of time and future plans and not only call it “love”, but we have even mastered a way to convince ourselves that this is indeed, love.

No drama no fun. Maybe subconsciously, we do not want the real thing, despite us keep saying it. Because being able to identify the real thing too soon may mean the end of future romances. Where is the fun in that? And yet, we avow that we are looking for the real thing. Maybe we want to have the real thing but at our preferred time. Here’s flash news folks; love does not wait for your time, and you don’t get to choose who you love, if you are talking about “the real thing”. Just say we want to satisfy our sexual desires, our crave for romance, call it anything but don’t call it “love”. Bon Jovi will be screaming, “You give love a bad name” and for once, I will not mind the noise.

Little do we realize, that love can sometimes come slowly, and unlikely. For some of us, we prefer drama as a form of marketing for love. Why do you think Romantic Comedies are so in today? I am guilty as charged. I love Romantic Comedies because I love fantasy. But unlike some delusional audience, when I push the “Stop” button on my remote control, I get to go back to reality and know that the reason why those dramas happened in those movies are because it hardly happen in real life and that is why love stories like that are made into movies because if it happens in real life, it won’t be something special to make a movie out of it. That is why our grandparents survive longevity in relationships, they don’t play Romantic Comedy back then, be it on or off the black and white TV.

I use to laugh and tell my guy buddy, “If you’re looking for a soul mate, look into her soul because it’s not on her tits, where your eyes laze”

Life is funny. No wait, it’s not life that is funny. The people of this millennium are. In today’s so called “love” scene, it is easier to secure a relationship when your motive is anything other than offering sincere god honest love. What happened to "through thick and thin"? What happened to loyalty? Faith? Honesty? Sincerity?

What had happened to us? Could it be that we have become too damaged, too cynical and probably too jaded from past relationships that when we are finally offered simple straightforward love on a platter, they think it is some kind of a trick of sort, God is playing on us. And we will start looking for some kind of hidden camera from some bad reality TV show. It’s like love isn’t love unless you get to play “hide and seek” or “dog catches cat”, whatever. Why bitches gets the guys is because they comprehend the animalistic preying nature of men and are good at playing and manipulation these games, the game of love and guys dig it. And it’s vice versa.

Here’s a question. After all that drama, that hide and seek, that dog catches cat games, and finally both parties end up together, what next? Are we going to cherish the relationship because it was a trophy to be celebrated or because the person standing in front of you is worthy of your love and you are worthy of his/hers? Can’t we just develop the ability to identify love, without all that games we play? If love is just a game for two, is it a competition for one to win or both winning?

I guess, in a relationship, it depends on what you are looking for? If you are looking for romance, then it is easy. If you are looking for casual sex, the modern time “Touch and Go” style is so ample, you can even have fuck buddies on your speed dial. But if you are looking for “the real thing”, now this requires something else, which none of us really have a clue of. They say that a journey to a thousand miles begin with the first step. In this day and age where we are distracted by many things that hinders us from the path of finding true love, (mostly us as the hindering factor) if we are looking for “the real thing”, maybe the first step to this long and winding journey would be asking ourselves and answering in all honesty, “Are we looking for true love, or what are we truly looking for?”

The greatest thing

You'll ever learn

Is just to love

And be loved

In return"

Enjoy Nat King Cole's "Nature Boy"....